GUIDELINES ON HOW TO SUPPORT YOUR CHILDREN THROUGH THE TRAUMA OF THIS FIRE

Following these simple guidelines can help to reduce the long-term impact of this frightening experience.

1. “ACTING OUT” BEHAVIOR
• Unlike most adults, children do not have the fully developed social and verbal skills required to understand and express their feelings in a calm and rational manner. Instead they are likely to unconsciously act out their emotions. While this may be uncomfortable (and inconvenient) for many parents, do not be too quick to shut down the inappropriate behavior. Their behavior is much like a light on a dashboard alerting you to a problem needing attention. Becoming curious about your child’s behavior can give you valuable information about how they are dealing with the world around them.
2. SHOULD I LET MY CHILDREN WATCH THE NEWS?
• There is no need for your children to be exposed to more horror than is necessary. This can be said for the entire family. Sitting in front of the television for hours on end leaves your family vulnerable to intense feelings of helplessness, depression and anxiety. Watching the news can keep you informed and alert to danger. However, over dosing on graphic images of pain and suffering can immobilize you and your family by engulfing you in a state of fear.
3. HOW TO TALK WITH YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT THE FIRES.
• Let them take the lead. Answer their questions simply and honestly.
• Do not give them more information then what they are asking for.
• As uncomfortable as it is, let them talk about their fear and anxiety. While it is important to let your children know they are safe and that you will protect them, it is equally important that they feel free to share their feelings with you.